If you are a parent bracing for a child custody battle with your soon-to-be-ex-spouse,
then you are likely filled with uncertainty and anxiety over the upcoming
proceedings. For divorcing parents who cannot see eye-to-eye, child custody
disputes can be the most emotional and stressful part of their divorce.
Both parents are hoping to establish a favorable arrangement and are willing
to fight to address concerns they have about the well-being of their children.
Even when parents have the best interests of their child in mind, many
are surprised by how their seemingly unrelated behavior can negatively
affect their child custody goals. The court takes a comprehensive look
at the life of the family and the conduct of each individual parent during
this process and many parents are dismayed to find they have made common
mistakes that will make their child custody battle even tougher.
If you're facing a child custody battle, look out for the following:
Badmouthing your spouse in public. During a divorce, it's normal to have negative feelings towards your
spouse. However, the court wants to see parents who can foster their child's
relationship with the co-parent. If you have publicly derided your spouse—including
on Facebook and other social media outlets—they may be able to use
it as evidence that you cannot provide your child a healthy perspective.
Making parenting decisions without your spouse. Before and during a divorce, it is critical that parents continue to
be cordial enough to communicate about parenting decisions. Matters concerning
the child's education, health, and general upbringing need to be discussed
and mutually agreed upon. If one parent is found to be making these decisions
without the other parent's knowledge, the parent making those decisions
will not be looked favorably on by the court.
Adopting an over-aggressive strategy. Barring the presence of drugs, alcohol, or abuse, sole custody has become
rare for divorced families. The court wants to establish circumstances
where both parents play a key role in the child's upbringing. If you
approach your custody battle unreasonable demands, it may hurt your credibility
in the courtroom or seem like you are trying to needlessly "game"
your divorce procedure against your spouse.
Putting your child in the middle of the battle. If a child is old enough, the court may be interested in their preference
when it comes to custody matters. However, no matter what age your child
is, if the court suspects that you've been pressuring them—or
"coaching" them—to take your side over your spouse's,
it may perceive you as manipulative and selfish.
Moving in with a romantic partner. It's normal for divorced parents to eventually transition back into
dating, but during the tenuous period during and just following a divorce,
any new romantic relationships should be partitioned from your family
life. The court wants to see that parents can provide some semblance of
consistency for their child post-divorce and having new romantic partners
moving in or staying over does not reflect an environment the court has
Have concerns about your divorce and child custody battle? Then it's
time to speak with trusted counsel today. Contact our dedicated and knowledgeable
Buffalo divorce attorney at Rossi Law Firm today and request a
free case evaluation.